So I read Seth Godin’s new book, The Dip the other day. Like most of the things he writes, it’s a little gem filled with common sense ideas that make you say “duh” and “AHA!” both at the same time.
I am glad to have read it, as I took away a powerful reminder of something I have a real tendency to forget. Like a lot of things, it’s something I know, but sometimes need to be reminded about. And this book did that for me. Here it is:
Not everyone I deal with intends to be the best in the world - not should they.
Like a lot of the people I know read this blog, I am one of those really supermotivated self-starters who doesn’t do anything in life without the full expectation (realistic or not) that I will succeed remarkably. You know, the old if it’s worth doing, it’s worth doing right…. only taken to a completely new level. I expect myself to succeed, to be a stand out, to make every one of my endeavors brilliant. I call it motivated. My husband says I’m a workaholic. Can anyone relate?
So that is a big part of my persona at work. Those off you who have encountered me professionally would, I’m sure agree. I assume that the task at hand will be a huge success and will do anything to make it so. Whatever I do must be the best I can possibly make it. I just don’t know any other way.
The thing is, I sometimes forget that not everyone thinks that way. As Seth Godin says in The Dip:
People settle. They settle for less than they are capable of. Organizations settle, too. For good enough instead of best in the world.
Thing is, as a trainer, I have to keep this in mind more. Not everyone comes to the table with the expectation that they, or the project we’re working on will be the “best in the world.” Could it? Of course! But that’s not the way a lot of people (most people??) think.
They come into the training session wanting to learn just enough to get by, because that is how they live their lives. It’s totally understandable because this is the safe way, the easy way. I mean, isn’t it a lot easier in LibraryWorld to get a job, do a good enough job to keep it (maybe even an above average job), and then just wait for someone to retire? Maybe I’m just beating my head against the wall and making myself miserable by thinking that I (and my organization and our libraries) can do better than that. It would be so much safer to never stick my neck out, to settle for good enough all the time and forget about reaching for exceptional. I’ll tell you, I’d have a lot fewer sleepless nights and nerve-wracking meetings that way! Trying to be a superstar is hard work!
This doesn’t mean I should let the folks I work with settle… or at least not all of them. I’m the person I am, and that’s why I have the job I do. Pushing people to do better is my middle name. But I need to remember where these folks are coming from. In order to motivate them, I need to be reminded that not everyone even WANTS to be the best. It’s too much pressure, too much risk. For most people, good enough is good enough.
I’ll never forget the first semester I taught a college course. I was so nervous when I gave out the grades at the end of the semester. I mean, I couldn’t just give everyone A’s, after all, and what was I going to say when the students came and complained (as I figured they were bound to - I would have freaked out not to get an A!!). The next day, a student knocked on my office door. I cringed and thought “oh, here it comes,” since I had given him a B. To my surprise, he thanked me for a great course, and seemed quite pleased with his grade. It was my first real look into the psyche of people who, while not underachievers, aren’t overachievers either. Not a single person in the class complained about their grade.
The world (and that includes LibraryWorld!) needs people who don’t necessarily want to be the best. In fact, that’s very beneficial to those of us who do. But I feel like we can motivate them, maybe not to want to stick their necks out to be THE BEST, but to be a little bit better than good enough. And I really think the first step in that, at least for me, is in understanding where they’re coming from, and that the possibility of being exceptional may not be on their agenda in the first place.
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